I am Ksenija Kadic
Transformationl coach and founder of Fluidity of Self.
Fluidity of self was born out of my experiences in optimizing people’s wellbeing, my practice as an artist, and my personal experience of being labeled as a refugee.
...and I'd like to tell you a story
A story of my secret guide, or a part of me who helped me discover and develop the idea of Fluidity of Self into a philosophy and a method...
One day I dreamt of a cosmic snake coiled and beautifully bright. Slowly moving the snake stretched out revealing colourful, repetitive patterns of thousand galaxies interlacing, creating multiple realities of infinite cosmos. It was gently calling me to tell a story of a volcanic, cosmic prophecy of a world that knows no boundaries.
The snake said ‘I am a symbol of life of collective cosmic identity, follow me and I’ll show you an all-embracing view’.
In waking life this dream became vivid. It was like I was struck by lightning. I felt shaken. I couldn't get the snake out of my head. As somebody who escaped a war in ex-Yugoslavia, I experienced an uprooting from my home and feeling a loss of a sense of self and identity. Since then, I became more sensitive to labels and many national identities that applied to me, which never seemed to fit or be the ones I could fully trust.
One day I thought of myself as a snake, part of the bigger cosmic Self and that was the “Aha!” moment, an inspiration calling me for transformation.
With help from others I decided to venture into the unknown to see where the snake would take me. I started to research the mental health field in particular Jungian archetypes and reflected on my work with people who experience mental health challenges and hear voices. This helped me coin the idea of Fluidity of Self. I facilitated the first Fluidity of Self workshop at the International Hearing Voices Congress in Boston. And I made my first self-discovery that struggles can arise from being rigid with our identities rather than being fluid with who we are.
Soon after I realized that the snake and I weren’t alone, I started meeting people who were interested in the Fluidity of Self idea. I met Shenandoah who became my collaborator helping me develop it further. Through a two-year creative process in a dance studio we felt called to meet each week and play with empty boxes. This birthed six principles which are about embodiment of Fluidity of Self idea and made it into philosophy and a method. I had learnt to see the exercise of ‘playing with empty boxes’ as an experience of intentional creative enquiry. Getting to know myself through creativity was my second self-discovery.
I was able to let go of labels that no longer fitted me and just like a snake that sheds its skin I transformed my self-limited views and grew. I learnt to trust the insights that arose through this process rather than search for answers about myself. The snake became my guide helping me discover my personal archetypes and symbols that helped me deepen the knowledge of who I am beyond my cultural identities and roles.
Next on my voyage I met Dr Adrian Low, who became my collaborator on a programme Time to Create, which was to encourage people to take time to learn six principles of Fluidity of Self and explore self-expression. We integrated Fluidity of Self idea with contemporary developments in psychology and Bruce Lee’s Jeet Kune Do Philosophy, bringing together perspectives on self-awareness, harmonizing emotions and working with our resistance in order to see ourselves more fully. And my third self-discovery was realizing not knowing who I am is not to be feared, but to be embraced. The snake became my collaborator, showing me how to let go of my past and trust my experience and befriend my shadow and past.
Continuing on my voyage, I began to work with Mirela Kulovic. I introduced her to the exercise of 'playing with empty boxes' and we created a project called Space to be Different. With deep roots in spirituality, wellbeing and art practice our work became about relationships, having fun with our different identities and liberating ourselves from rigid rules about life. I reflected on my drawings, visions and archetypes and realized that my art practice, life situations and relationships define different aspects of who I am and I felt liberated to express myself fully from these places of variety. The fort self-discovery was about being liberated and I was able to say goodbye to snake.
The snake is no longer with me. It has thought me many things about myself. It still visits me from time to time and continues to give me insights, helping me see life from both polarities, up close and from a distance. I have learned I can choose from different identities. I don't have to be stuck with one. I can hold multiple; an artist, a writer, a teacher, a mother, an ex-refugee, and so much more as well as be grounded in the collective, cosmic, bigger self.
I hope you have a powerful guide like I do. If you don’t, I suggest you find one as soon as possible and let it take you on a voyage of self-discovery. With a great guide everything is possible.
Ksenija is a member of British Psychological Society and has the EMCC Global Individual Accreditation (EIA) and Professional Designation at Practitioner level. She abides by their code of ethics and has full Professional Indemnity Insurance.